Fear prevents good. That’s what I’ve learned. It’s an inhibitor. It stops us in our tracks. It keeps us from doing the things that might be really good for us. Fear Doesn't Prevent the BAD; It Prevents the GOOD. But most people have it backwards. They think,...
“The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”[1] What is your purpose? What were you and you alone put on...
In Thought Management, Part 1, we learned about the connection between thoughts, feelings, the body, and behavior. We learned about the thousands of automatic thoughts that run through our minds each day, and how one little, unnoticed thought can lead to a whole lot of...
First, I want to thank all who have joined the discussion on self-esteem and self-worth. You’ve had a lot to say, and I still do too! I’ve received several questions over the past couple of weeks, so, to ensure we're all on the same page...
For years, I have noticed that almost everyone who walks through my private practice door is really dealing with the same core issue: poor “self-esteem”. Whether struggling through depression, anxiety, addiction, relationship issues, parenting challenges, or even life stress, when we get to the core of...
"She doesn't understand my needs at all!" "If he really loved me, he would show it!" "We're living like roommates now--the spark is completely gone." As a Clinical Psychologist, I hear these complaints all the time. Couples who don't understand each other, couples who don't feel loved,...
Are You An Optimist? If not, you can learn to be one! I never considered myself an optimist. But I never really considered myself a pessimist either. “I’m a realist,” I would say. But “realist” is just another word for optimistic pessimist, isn’t it? Then, in 2009 I...
Thanks to my good friend, Julie Hanks, LCSW, I've been able to do a couple of guest posts for her Private Practice Toolbox series on www.PsychCentral.com. The first was my article, "Sharing Office Space With Your Spouse". This was followed up by a Video Tour...