Are you a perfectionist? Not sure? Well, do you… Set unrealistically high goals/standards for yourself and/or others? Judge yourself based on what you do/don’t accomplish? Have a hard time stopping a project until it’s exactly how you want it? Have trouble relaxing in even a small mess at home? Feel...
Some time back in graduate school I realized that if I don’t ask for help when I need it, it might never come. Like so many women, I’d spent the first several years of my marriage expecting my husband, OJ (no, not Simpson), to just...
Why does Mother's Day always make me think of all I'm not doing right as a Mother? Every year I try to avoid it, but I can't escape. The images of crafty, fulfilled, do-it-all moms who are (seemingly) perfect, fill the world, and at first,...
For years, I have noticed that almost everyone who walks through my private practice door is really dealing with the same core issue: poor “self-esteem”. Whether struggling through depression, anxiety, addiction, relationship issues, parenting challenges, or even life stress, when we get to the core of...
17 Secrets for Making Marriage Work (In Honor of our 17th Wedding Anniversary) I am honored today to host my very first guest collaborator—my husband, OJ. OJ and I met in college and just celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary on October 19th. We’ve been through some huge...
Like the changing seasons, loss comes to all, whether through death, illness, children leaving home, loss of career or money, divorce, miscarriage, infertility, trauma, or even the symbolic losses of identity, innocence, or security. Each primary loss carries secondary losses, such as the loss of...
The Do's & Don'ts of Helping Others Through Grief Yesterday was my sister, Shannon's, birthday. She would have been 36 years old. She died in 2007. I've faced many birthdays and anniversaries, having lost two of my sisters, my brother-in-law, my beloved father-in-law, two dear grandfathers, and...