30 Jan Create the Life You Desire!: Part 2, The 3 Steps of Creating
The 3 Steps of Creating
“When you are in the orientation of the creative, life is often interesting, exciting, and special. This is not because creators try to be interested in whatever they are doing, but because they are involved in life on a level where there is always the possibility of something new and wonderful happening that has never existed before.”[1]
Does this sound like what you want—to enjoy the “possibility of something new and wonderful happening that has never existed before?” It sure sounds good to me, and I’m here to tell you that it’s possible: You can create the life you desire. “Interesting, exciting, and special,” are not just empty ideals meant for other people; they are the possible and even probable results of creating (and I would add, creating in partnership with God) the life that you envision.
As I mentioned in Part 1, creating is the key to getting out of the “rubber-bands” of life, the key to getting “unstuck”. It’s a paradigm shift—a whole new approach to becoming who we desire to be and living the life we crave. Now, don’t you dare say, “But I’m not creative!” because I won’t believe it. It’s in our nature to create—not only things of beauty like music and art, but relationships, experiences, and emotions too. We each have a creative part of us; some make physical creations while others create meaning, love, compassion, trust. And we are each ultimately the creator of our own life. So, if we find our life lacking–in joy, love, peace, passion, whatever!—then it’s up to us to create something better.
The 3 Steps of Creating:
So let’s get started! Allow me to share 3 steps that have helped me create the life I desire. Whenever I feel “stuck” again, I go back to these steps and create something new. It can be challenging and a long process, but then, so is life. I hope they will help you as much as they continue to help me. Happy creating!!
1) SEE your current “reality.”
In order to create the life, emotions, relationships and experiences you envision, it is important to be honest and open about where you 
already are. This means taking off the “rose-colored glasses,” being willing to take a good, hard look at the ups and downs, strengths and weaknesses, experiences and “problems” that make up your current life. It means setting aside time and attention to look and really see what your life is like. Only once you have seen the current reality can you begin to envision a new one. (If you need help, try the exercise in this article–it’s a great way to start to “see”!)
2) DESIRE a different reality.
What do you desire? Some people have trouble with this because they think it’s “selfish” to desire. Believe me when I say, “It’s not,” at least not the kind of desire I’m talking about–knowing what lies in your heart and embracing it; reaching out and working for your dreams; creating yourself into the best you can be. Are you able to easily discern the desires of your heart?
1) If so, make a list of your current desires. Your list may include things like, “I desire emotional health,” “I desire a more joyful atmosphere in my home,” “I desire to have more fun with my family,” or “I desire to develop my ability to…(sing, paint, write, be kind, have faith, etc).” There are endless possibilities; the important thing is to recognize what your desires are and embrace them.
2) If not, start dreaming. This is the fun part. Let yourself imagine all kinds of possibilities for your life. Imagine what your family, work, hobbies might be like. Imagine where you might go, what you might do, and especially, who you might become. This is your “brainstorming” session, so there are no “rights” or “wrongs”. Let go and dream away!
A couple suggestions…
Remember, your desires are uniquely yours. Let go of the urge to look around and compare to others. Only you know the true path for your life. And…
Let go of your preconceived ideas of what is possible. Suspend your current concept of reality, of what you can or cannot do or become. Simply let your desires take hold. What you do with them will come later; just let yourself desire away! Who’s to say what’s possible and what is right for you? Only you will be able to know, and you will never know if you don’t let yourself dream and desire!
3) CREATE what you desire.
Focus on what you want instead of what you don’t want. What steps need to be taken in order to get there? What must be done to achieve the end result you desire and dream about? Remember, this isn’t all about adding more “to do’s”. While creating certainly involves many “to-do’s,” what we’re really working on here is your “to-be” list. Thus, if you desire more love in your life, start today and be more loving. If you desire more peace, reach out in peace today. It’s not always about doing more, but rather, about being more in what you do. Choose one small thing you can create today and begin there. Then, create the next step. And the next. Bit by bit your creations will become your reality, and your reality will be the life you have always desired!
Creating is not easy…
Above all, have compassion and patience with yourself, for change is not easy, especially when you’re creating something brand new. But, if you persistently follow these steps, in time, you can and will create what you desire. And if not, well, you just begin to SEE, DESIRE, & CREATE again!
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